There are plenty of fish in the sea, but fishing is so much easier when the goods are delivered to your phone. That’s why we still use dating apps, no matter how many photos of a dude holding a bass show up. But the sea is better when the waters are inclusive, which is why we’re a fan of the best LGBTQ+ dating apps.

LGBTQ+ people are some of the most avid dating app users. A 2020 survey from Pew Research Center found that 55 percent of lesbian, gay, or bisexual respondents have used a dating app, compared to only 28 percent of straight people. It makes sense, numbers-wise. There are fewer queer people – only 4.5 percent of the population – so you have to cast that fishing net wide to get good bites.

But the dating app experience can be worse for LGBTQ+ people. The Pew survey found more than half of lesbian, gay, or bisexual online daters have experienced some form of harassment, compared to 32 percent of straight daters.

That’s why we found the best LGBTQ+ dating apps by talking to people who have actually tried them. Our list includes both apps aimed at specific LGBTQ+ communities, and apps that are popular with (but not exclusively for) queer people. So go ahead, charge that battery and get to swiping!

Or order some pizza. You’ll need the sustenance.

Thanks to dating apps, you no longer have to walk up to a total stranger and try to strike up a conversation in person. But you still have to have some sort of opening line to kick off an interaction and “hi” isn’t going to cut it. Whether you’re on Hinge, Bumble, or Her, having a few funny dating app openers in your back pocket is a great way to get the conversation going.

If your match is receptive, you’ll know you at least have a great sense of humor in common. Just wait for a few more exchanges before inviting them to your improv show.

To help you with the perfect opener, we compiled a whole list of flirty and fun ideas for you to try. Some are punny, some are cheesy, and they’re all way better than sending an unsolicited photo. Unless said photo is of your cat. Then, by all means, give Mr. Fluffybubbles more time in the spotlight.

Rabbit vibrators were probably the first type of vibrators you learned about when you stayed up past your bedtime to sneak an episode of Sex and the City. While Carrie’s Y2K fashion is now coming back in style, it seems that this sex toy never went out.

According to Bed Bible’s The State of Sex Toys 2022 survey, rabbit vibrators were in the top five most popular types of vibrators. They’re a classic for a reason: the combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation doesn’t get old.

Even when Carrie sabotaging her relationship with Big yet again certainly did.

We found the best rabbit vibrators that will have you orgasming so hard, you’ll forget all about Sex and the City 2. And the new TV show.

There’s so much to prepare when you move in with your partner. Before you get into all the logistics, though, there are questions you need to ask before you move in together to set your new life up for success. You’ve got to be prepared to talk about future plans, money, chores, traditions, intimacy, and more, all before you start packing up the U-Haul.

Emotional exhaustion, meet physical exhaustion. And then meet couch. what to ask before you move in together

And sure, the logistical concerns matter too. You have to find a place to live, after all, and schedule the movers – or your most pizza-motivated friends. Perhaps most importantly, you have to combine your mug collections to a reasonable number – 38 is reasonable, right?

But before you post that selfie of you, your partner, and the keys to your new place on Instagram, be sure you’ve hashed out all the things on this list first.

Meeting a new person for a first date can be awkward. Sitting down for a multi-course dinner is a huge time commitment. If they’re boring or you weren’t attracted to them when you first sat down, now it feels like you’re stuck there.

But, coffee dates can feel a bit like you’re interviewing someone for the position of dating you and if you’re go-to is meeting at a bar for a drink, there’s probably only so many of those dates you want to have a week.

Once you get off the apps (here’s some Hinge prompts to help you do just that), here’s a list of fun first date ideas that break the mold and are more memorable than yet another coffee date.

Are you ready to say the L word when your situationship is about to ghost you? Do you want something serious, but run for the hills when things get real? These can be signs of different attachment styles that may be getting in the way of your relationships.

And good cardiovascular endurance, depending on how fast you’re running and how high that hill is.

Even as you’re mindlessly swiping through apps on going on dates in your adult life, you could still be trying to heal your first relationship: between you and your caregiver. The connection you form with your parent or other caregiver as a baby is where you learn your relationship skills – or relationship ineptitude.

As you get older, this is often how you approach your own romantic connections. Here’s a look at what the different attachment styles are, how to identify them, and how to change them if they’re not serving you.

If you’re dating on Hinge, you’ve read countless boring Hinge prompts and responses. Oh, you love tacos and hiking? Groundbreaking. The Officeis your favorite show? Who would have thought. After a while, your eyes just start to glaze over when you see the same prompts with the same answers, over and over.

The first step to success is to set up an eye catching profile that shows off your personality and starts a conversation. We’re here to help you answer the most popular Hinge prompts and start a conversation with something besides, “I’m 6ft, if that matters.”

And seriously? We’d take a short king over that kind of attitude any day.

When it comes to relationships, there can be a fine line between sweet and scary. Your crush standing outside in the rain with a boombox may seem cute in the movies, but it’s weird in real life. The mixed messages we get from films and pop culture can make it hard to tell the difference between falling head over heels and toxic love bombing.

Here’s a look at what love bombing looks like, how you can spot it, and what to do if it happens. Hint: sacrificing a perfectly good, working vintage boombox by taking it out in the rain might be a sign. Keep those relics dry, folks!

Polyamory is getting more and more buzz these days. But, what does is mean to be polyamorous? When it comes to relationships, polyamory is a style that comes from the philosophy that one person doesn’t need to be your everything.

After all, putting all of your sexual, romantic, and emotional needs and desires in the hands of one person can be a lot of pressure. It’s like when your boss adds more responsibilities to your job. Not every millennial is a social media manager, Susan.

While monogamy is still the societal standard, more people are trying out this type of relationship style. In fact, a 2021 study found that one in nine people engaged in polyamory at some point during their life. Here’s a look at what a polyamorous relationship can look like, and how it works.

If you’re ever worried about accidentally Chromecasting your slide deck of Michael B. Jordan‘s best shirtless pics and trying to convince your friends it’s just another prank commercial, then reading something equally hot is a safer bet. Enter: literotica, erotic stories you can read online or in books.

If you’re new to the world of raunchy reads, we compiled the best places to find literotica online, from user-submitted short stories to poetry curated by authors.

And if you love the smell of a fresh paperback in the morning, we’ve also gathered some of today’s most popular and provocative erotica books. 50 Shades of Gray not included.

Whether you’re a bookworm or a blue light addict, you deserve to read great smut, and we’re here to help you find it.

We’ve all dreamed of becoming a princess since Anne Hathaway makeover of straightened and Y2K waxed eyebrows. And once Chris Pine was introduced in Princess Diaries 2, we had other dreams involving our royal bedchambers. If you love to be treated like a royalty in the bedroom, you may be a pillow princess.

This title was lovingly bestowed by queer women to describe a woman who loves to be serviced in bed. But more recently, men have started to use it to disparage women who they think are lazy starfishes in bed.

So what’s the truth about a pillow princess? And how do you know if you are one? Come with us as we clear up this title. And then maybe later tonight, too.

You’re connected to many important networks: your social networks, a WiFi network, the Oprah Winfrey Network. If you’re into one of many forms of non-monogamy, you might become part of a relationship network.

The network of interconnected partners is a polycule. When you seek out multiple partners, you’ll be connecting with their partners, their partners’ partners, and, hopefully, all of their adorable pets.

Sex is the most fun you can have with your clothes off, but it can get stale when you’re doing it the same old way every time. It’s easy to fall into the same old sex habits that you know will consistently get you to the finish line and asleep at bed time.

But the orgasms can be better when you’re excited by something new. Since there are so many things to try in bed and life is short, grab your Lewis to your Clark and use this list to start exploring.

You’re looking for something to start your engine and your copy of Fifty Shades of Grey is already falling apart at the seams. You go to Pornhub and see yet another 25-year-old MILF trapped in a washing machine. Ugh. Instead of all that, try out some literotica – erotic stories you can read online or in books.

They say that men watch porn because they are visual creatures. Maybe women would be visual creatures if the visuals on porn sites weren’t often sexist and gross. That’s why literotica has been called “porn for women.”

Now your imagination can run wild without getting distracted by the unconvincing orgasm noises and unnaturally hairless bodies. And trust us, the hype is real. The most popular literotica website, Literotica.com, gets 62.4 million visits per month.

It’s clear that people of all genders enjoy reading sex stories. And the New Year resolution to read more is actually being met. You can try eating less sugar next year.

We love a good meal, so we’re celebrating with a taco and sausage night. Well, so to speak. We’re actually talking about oral sex. Plus, tips on how to perform this delicious act, and the best oral sex positions to perform them in.

Because it does sound pretty straightforward: the mouth goes on the sweet spot. But the position in which you perform or receive this delicacy can make a big difference in how it feels.

If your sex life is stuck in the same routine, a new position can open up your palette to a whole new cuisine. Just try a bite. Ah, actually, no teeth please.

We are long past the days where you would need to order a “back massager” from a Sears catalog. Now, sex toys are at the forefront of technology, and toys like the Lush 3 Vibrator by Lovense bring your orgasm to the future. But, will it really? Well, that’s why we decided to review the Lush 3.
The Lush 3 uses Bluetooth and internet connection so you can control the vibrator from across the world. Imagine traveling back in time to say we’d someday be controlling pleasure items using satellites and undersea cables. You’d be burned as a witch! But the looks on their faces may be worth it.

What’s the difference between affect and effect, lie and lay, or who and whom? We can’t solve all the world’s mysteries. But what we can tell you is the difference between bisexual and pansexual. These words have close, sometimes overlapping, definitions, so they can easily be confused.

At the end of the day, a label can only be defined by the person using it. If you’re wondering which label is right for you, here’s an overview of some of the differences and similarities of bisexuality and pansexuality.

Everything keeps getting more expensive these days, including dates. A rose by any other price smells as sweet, but who can afford it? Stop going to overpriced restaurants, filling up on the free bread, and pretending to have an emergency so you can leave. Instead, have a fun, flirty, and fiscally responsible date with these cheap date ideas.

Because you don’t need to blow the budget or get banned from your local restaurants to have a romantic night with your boo. That’s more fun as bedroom roleplay, anyway.

Ladies, it’s time to take a climb. In bed, that is. When you’re the woman on top, you’re in charge of everything: the pace, the angle, and the thermostat. Your partner is trapped, so turn it up to 72. Electric bill be damned.

It’s the 21st century, so we don’t need to lie back and think of England anymore – unless you’re fantasizing about Prince Harry. Turns out, women do like having sex now that they can pick their partners. And since deodorant has been invented.

So if you’re ready to dominate your sex life, try out these woman on top sex positions. We break down all the best ones for you here.

Eye contact is all well and good, but sometimes you wanna do it like they do on the Discovery Channel. According to SKYN’s 2021 Intimacy Survey of Gen Z and Millenials, doggy style is the most popular sex position. There’s a reason most mammals are doing the dirty this way.

We love this position because:

• The wide legged stance is perfect for deep penetration.

• It’s the best angle to hit the g-spot.

• The domination of being taken from behind can be thrilling.

• The penetrator’s hands are free for touching, tickling, and teasing.

• You can keep cool once the doggy style days of summer hit and your AC is broken. Missionary is fun and intimate, but not when your sweat turns you into a slip and slide.

So if you ain’t nothing but a mammal, try out these doggy style sex positions that will have you begging for more.

Texting was an innovation of sexy communication. Remember trying to talk to your crush on the house phone, in fear that your mom will pick up the line? Now you can privately send sexy texts to your crush or partner anytime, anywhere–as long as you don’t accidentally text your mom instead.

But texting about sex can still feel awkward, and in the moment, it’s hard to think of sexy things to say.

So we compiled this list of hot things to text your partner. You can still reread them 100x, show them to your bestie, and edit a final copy before sending.

We’ve been saving up for the Dyson Airwrap, but we may have to blow the budget on an even sexier device. Suction vibrators are the latest innovation in sex toy technology, and they’re giving us a way more exciting blow out.

These clit stimulators are better time savers too. You’ll be on your third orgasm before your Teams status turns yellow. We love a good work hack!

So, we asked the sex experts for their favorite clit sucking vibrators. After this list, you’ll be too distracted to spend $600 on a hair curler.

Time to dust off the cowgirl boots you bought when you were a bridesmaid for a 2010 barn themed wedding. We’re taking a wild ride to the reverse cowgirl sex position.

Those who are preferential to a rear view know that reverse cowgirl is the best position to enjoy a booty-ful performance. It puts your backside on display, so even if you feel like your wagon is draggin’, you look like Megan Thee Stallion. Here’s how to make the most of the reverse cowgirl ride.

No, this has nothing to do with one-legged pirates. Pegging is an intimate act that involves anally penetrating a partner with a dildo. Yeah, we’re getting right into it. The details, that is!

It’s gained more attention in the media recently, with Abby pegging her neighbor/crush Jeremy in Broad City and Vanessa pegging Wade to celebrate International Women’s Day in Deadpool.

And if the blind items are to be believed, even Prince William might have gotten a scepter in his throne. After that rumor started, Pornhub searches for the term went up 318% in the UK.

So, to help you or your partner get the same royal treatment, here’s our complete guide to pegging.

Who says having a stick up your butt is a bad thing? As long as the stick has a flared base and is made with body-safe materials, we say go for it.

Butt plugs are a fun and safe way to explore anal stimulation for all genders. But, since it’s not like you can try one on in the store to see if it fits, why we asked sex experts their recommendations for the best butt plugs so you can plug and play. And they’re all more comfortable than an actual stick!

If you like giving head, blowjobs are great. If you don’t, flavored condoms come in many fruity, fun options and are one way to make sucking the lollipop a sweeter treat.

But are these condoms flavors better than the generic “lightly salted?” We’re so glad you asked!

We taste tested and reviewed the most popular flavored condom brands to find out which will have you coming back for more, and which make you say “maybe we should just watch Netflix and chill.”

Did you grow up having open conversations with your parents about masturbating and the clitoris? Or do you still laugh whenever someone says “erect?” Although the sex talk is super cringy to think about, not having it can lead to some even cringier moments as an adult.

And that’s exactly what the documentary “A Sexplanation” tries to tackle.

In the documentary, Alex Liu, a freelance science reporter, investigates how we talk about sex and why so many of us are afraid to talk about it. Growing up as a gay Asian man, he says he felt shame and confusion about his sexual desires and was afraid to talk to his parents about his feelings.

Through the film, he interviews experts to find out why talking about physical intimacy still makes us want to hide under our Spice Girls comforter. So why are we all so embarrassed to talk about sex?

In the aftermath of the overturning of Roe v. Wade, abortion laws across the country are rapidly changing. It’s estimated that abortion will end up being banned or severely restricted in about half of US states.

This is not the law offices of Let’s, Eat, and Cake, so we can’t provide any legal advice about your specific situation. If you have questions about the abortion laws in your state, contact the Repro Legal Helpline. And, check Abortion Finder’s state-by-state guide for the latest information about your state’s abortion laws and to keep an eye on how this dumpster fire of a situation evolves.

But, if you’re in a state where abortion is now banned or severely restricted, we do want you to know you still have options if you want or need to get an abortion. Here’s how.

If you’re into kink or are dating using apps like Feeld of FetLife, you may have come across an alphabet soup of acronyms and BDSM terms you don’t recognize.

That’s because the kink community developed its own language to help like-minded people find each other. Which is great for the existing community… not so much for everyone who just realized they like getting tied up.

So, here’s your guide to common kink and BDSM terms so you can find the perfect mouth for your ball gag.

As you may have heard from the worst people on Twitter, pronouns and gender identity are a hot topic. Despite @TylerDurden42069’s thoughtful discourse on the topic, using the correct gender pronouns for someone isn’t difficult, scary, or the end of gender.

If you went to elementary school with dial up Internet, you likely learned that pronouns were either she/her or he/him, and groups got the pronouns of they/them. But just as our technology (and our skin care routine) has evolved, so has our language.

According to the Pew Research Center, 26% of American adults know someone who goes by gender neutral pronouns. Even if you don’t know someone who uses gender neutral pronouns yet, it’s good to prepare for when you make new friends…someday.