If you ask us what we’re thinking about on any given Tuesday, the answer will always be the same: Rihanna’s Swarovski crystal dress. But what if you ask “what do women think about during sex?” The answer…actually might be the same.

When you’re having sex, your mind can leave the moment and go wandering to all different places. We did the research (by which we mean we asked r/Women) to find out what women are thinking about when things are hot and heavy.

You know the scene: You’re walking down the street and a sexy stranger passes by – it’s lust at first sight. Oh, you don’t know that scene? Then you may be demisexual. Or you need to check your glasses prescription.

What is demisexuality, exactly? No, it’s not being sexually attracted to Demi Lovato exclusively. It’s more like being attracted to someone only after spending many nights staying up late watching Disney+ together. (Call us for a marathon night anytime, Demi).

Let us elaborate.

When you go camping, you get to see all kinds of wildlife: birds, turtles, snakes, and unfortunately, spiders. But what about the beast with two backs? Get in touch with your own animal instincts with some camping sex. What better way to work up an appetite for s’mores?

To answer the call of nature, you’ll want to be prepared. You may be into a lot of kinky stuff, but I don’t know anyone who likes ramming their knee into a rock while they’re trying to get down and dirty.

When it comes to outdoor sex, here’s what to pack, tips for success, and the most in-tents sex positions.

Sex toys are fun, exciting, and…. expensive. So before you invest in a new toy, you can test out the sensations by using homemade sex toys. This way, you don’t have to decide between getting what you like in bed and treating yourself to a fancy latte. For the third time today.

DIY sex toys, also known as pervertables, allow you to get creative in bed without breaking the bank. However, they may lead to you breaking the bed.

Experts say that adding homemade sex toys to your sex life can be stimulating and safe. And, according to Kinkly’s self-pleasure survey, five percent of people use household items to masturbate. Who are we to argue with science?

They “don’t have to be labeled as official ‘sex toys.’ Feel free to get creative,” says Ashley Mariani M.S.W, R.S.W, Mind Online founder and registered clinical social worker.

“I only ask that you ensure that it’s well cleaned to reduce bacterial infection.” Now that’s a reason for household cleaning we can get behind.

We’ve been asking the question since we passed intricately folded notes across our 8th grade classroom: does he like you or does he like like you? Trying to figure out the signs that a man is attracted to you can feel like trying to figure out the signs in the movie Signs.

Is that a crop circle or an alien language? Why is M. Night Shyamalan here?

If you think you’re feeling the vibe, here are some of the signs of attraction and sexual tension to look out for.

You’re a hardworking, intelligent, and kind woman. You deserve a satisfying sex life with great sex. But, it can be hard to learn what you like in bed.

Some people seem born as zen sex-masters who are in touch with their bodies and the universe. But some of us are confused stress-masters who are only in touch with our Doordash drivers. Oh, hey Bob!

Getting in tune with your body and desires can be intimidating and overwhelming. But there are some easy steps you can take to learn what you like in bed… right after you finish your Doordash sushi.

Polyamorous relationships — sexual or romantic relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of everyone involved — are becoming more popular and more visible.

If you’re learning more about polyamory, you’re probably hearing some polyamory terms you don’t recognize, we put together this glossary so you look like you don’t have to just nod and smile when someone refers to a triad.

The shower seems like it should be a sexy place: you’re naked, the hot water is heating you up and filling the room with steam. What could be steamier than steam?

But when it comes to shower sex, there are some logistical challenges — “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” isn’t great dirty talk.

Prepare yourself for some good, clean fun with these shower sex positions and safety tips.

Long gone are the days where you’d pick out a “back massager” from the Sears catalog. Now, many types of sex toys are available at independent sex shops like Babeland and major retailers like Amazon.

Millennials are killing the napkin industry, the diamond industry, and the monogamy, uh, industry? While some believe polyamory is the end of monogamy, it isn’t. But, it is gaining in acceptance and visibility in the United States. And, perhaps, in popularity.

Move over, PlayStation 5 — we’re gaming with our Kegels now. Thanks to the nice folks over at Perifit, we got to try out their device that combines Kegel exercises with video games.

The term “French kissing” probably brings up memories of some hormonally-charged experiences that you pretty much abandoned once you learned other ways to spend sexy time. And you probably haven’t thought much about how to French kiss since. But a classic make out session can be an intimate and passionate way to connect with your partner.

If chains and whips excite you, you and Rihanna are not alone. Kinky sex can fun! It can also be a little intimidating if you think you need to jump right into Fifty Shades of Grey-level antics. (If a first-time lover approaches you with a BDSM contract, please run to the nearest exit).

On September 18th, Ruth Bader Ginsburg — U.S. Supreme Court Associate Justice, women’s rights activist, our Notorious R.B.G. — passed away at the age of 87. She spent her lifetime fighting against gender discrimination and breaking barriers for women and, not surprisingly, RBG’s quotes speak volumes.

Let’s face it. There are only two things the Internet is really good for: and one of them is looking at pictures of cats. (The other is ordering food. What did you think we were going to say?) You know what’s even better? Pictures of cats wearing hats.

Before there were DMs in which to slide, women needed to get creative when it came to finding a husband. And by “get creative,” we mean follow 129 super-specific “how to find a husband” tips McCall’s magazine collected in 1958.

Spooning lets you go from side-by-side snuggling to sex in record time. Just because it’s low effort doesn’t mean it needs to be low reward. The angle of most spooning sex positions allow easy access to the G-spot. And, it’s easier achieve than more acrobatic positions like the wheelbarrow, so you can go all night (or day). Just tell your boss something, er, came up if they ask why you couldn’t make your morning Zoom call.

The missionary position. Also known as the manner of serpents, the matrimonial, the mama-papa, the English-American, and the male superior… is it just us or is each of those a little more “yikes” than the last?

If your mind sometimes wanders into NSFW territory, you’re definitely not alone. Just ask our internet history. No matter how wild your daydreams get, there’s a pretty good chance they’re not as wild as you think. In fact, your raunchiest thoughts probably fall into one of most common sexual fantasies for women.

Want the neighbors to see you? Want a roll in the hay with after your partner brings you breakfast in bed? Can’t stop thinking about your former boss? All of these fantasies are totally normal. Unlike your predilection for stuffing your mattress with hay.

Right now, many of us are stuck at home and coping with boredom and the lockdown munchies. So what should we do? “Let’s potato about it,” says writer and designer Ada Powers. In her Twitter thread that went… viral (we’re gonna get a new term for this soon, right?), Powers shared what she believes is the ideal food for these trying times: the totwaffle.

The totwaffle — or tater tot waffle, if you don’t want it to sound like you’re delivering a British insult — is a Frankenstein’s monster of breakfast foods made by cooking tater tots in a waffle iron. Even if you didn’t learn how to cook until now, this is a breakfast recipe you can handle.